Web Site Review: “The Dating Divas”

I recently came across a really fabulous marriage web site geared toward women.  The Dating Divas is a site dedicated to celebrating and encouraging marriages by providing unique dating ideas to refresh marriage relationships.

Reading through their ideas got me so excited to try some creative dates on my own.  They have very unique ideas that will appeal to all types of women.

  • Want to get away from the cell phone and into the outdoors?  Try the Stuck With You Date.
  • Are you a home body?  Spend a special night in with one of their movie themed dates.
  • Hubby going to be away on your anniversary (again!)?  Check out their long distance anniversary ideas.
  • Looking for something a little spicy but not sinful?  They have that too.  Check out their Intimate Moments (but be prepared to blush).

The Divas have neatly broken their ideas down into categories to make it easy to find something that appeals to you.  I encourage you to check out the site and take your next date night from dull to dazzling!

Anger – Destruction in the Making

Anger is a basic human emotion, placed in us by the Creator of the Universe to help us survive.

But anger can get out of control and cause damage to those around us.

In this installment of the Chaplain Therapist, we will begin to look at the effects of anger on those around us as a starting point for personal change.

Enjoy this edition of the Chaplain Therapist and check back often to see new videos.

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Be Yourself

When Brandon and I were first married, he was pastoring a small church in rural Illinois.  So with the wedding ring and the new title of “Missus” also came the title “Pastor’s Wife”.  And with the title came the expectations.

Looking back, I’m not sure if the expectations came from the church or from me.  But I had this view of what a pastor’s wife should be.  She should play piano, sing in the choir, teach Sunday school, help with youth group, sit in the front pew and on and on.  So as a new bride and a new pastor’s wife I tried to be all of the above (except that I don’t play piano and you don’t want to hear me sing).  I diligently taught my three students in Sunday school, I attended the evening youth group, I sat in the second row during service . . . and was miserable all the while.  I don’t like teaching Sunday school.  I didn’t enjoy youth group or spending my Sunday evening there before returning to work Monday morning.  I hate sitting up front where people can see me.  I was trying to be someone I’m not.  I was trying to be someone other than who God made me to be.

A couple of years into this ministry I finally gave myself permission to be me.  I quit attending youth group and I quit teaching Sunday school.  Instead, I helped the church purchase its first computer and projector system to use during the service.  I happily sat in the empty balcony and created stunning slides to aid the church in worshipping.  I crafted announcement slides and played videos to enhance Brandon’s sermons.  And I was as happy as can be: I was being me.  I don’t think the church knew quite what to do with me.  I wasn’t the normal pastor’s wife, but they loved me anyway and expressed appreciation for what I did.

God created each of us on purpose.  Some he created to lead beautiful music, other to teach amazing lessons.  Some he gave amazing amounts of compassion, others he gave the gift of conversation.  He made us that way on purpose.  If we all wanted to sing and no one wanted to teach, how would anyone learn?  If everyone was busy talking and socializing, who would stop to have compassion on the hurting?

Jeremiah 1:5 says,

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.

If God created Jeremiah to be a prophet even while still in the womb, hasn’t He surely created each of us to fill a special role?

Be who God created you to be.  Not who you think you should be.  Not who someone else thinks you should be.  Be who God created YOU to be.  He made you that way on purpose.  Don’t miss out!

You want me to do what, Lord?!?

For most of my life I have been a die hard introvert. My goal was to blend in and not be noticed. My worst nightmares were being chosen for audience participation at large events or having to speak in front of adults. Even worse if said adults were women. I perceived women as being the worst about judging, gossiping and maliciousness.

Children don’t bother me.  I taught K-8 technology classes for three and a half years and second grade for two.  Little kids are sweet.  They still think that you are cool and smart.  Not so with adults.

So how did a die hard, adult-fearing introvert like me end up teaching and leading in women’s ministry? It’s all God. Only God could bring me from who I was to who I am now. I have now led at least six women’s Bible study classes and am currently mentoring another class. God amazes me. I’ve always known I had the gift of teaching. But it is only within the last few years that God showed me I could partner with him in teaching and leading adult women in deepening their relationships with Christ.  It has been an awesome journey and I have discovered the joy of sharing the depths of God’s word with these women.

1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.  If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.”

My story is one that gives God the praise. There is no way I could have overcome my fears and preconceived notions without God leading the way. I don’t know what God has for me next, but for now I am going to keep using my gift of teaching and rely on God to provide the strength that I need to accomplish great things for his glory.